Earlier today, I learned the possibility of experiencing heaven on earth in marital-relationship. So, here I am writing about what I learned recently as a wife.
Marriage and Parenting: I believe a healthy marriage makes parenting easy. So, motherhood and marital relationship work together. To the single mommas, you are the strongest women alive and God has something great planned out for you. I can’t imagine what it’s like working, doing life, and taking care of your child(ren) alone. God fathers your children and He is faithful to give them a loving earthly father if that’s what your heart desires.
Unity: The journey of motherhood is easier with an understanding, loving, and godly spouse. Two is always better than one when there is unity. So, I am constantly seeking ways to make my marriage fun and better. I am very aware of the enemy’s agenda to divide and conquer every family. But, we are victorious and we will walk in wisdom.
My Weaknesses: I confess, impatience and stubbornness are my weaknesses. Impatience combined with stubbornness can lead to “control-freak” syndrome. Sounds familiar? But hey, God is helping me with my weaknesses. My husband is very patient and doesn’t make decisions as quick as I do. So, you know what it feels like
Inter-generational history of divorce: My goal is to do what’s best for my marriage. I have a family-history of divorce or marital failure. I was an illegitimate child and I think adultery was involved. So, I constantly read Christian marriage books, listen to messages, and pray for my marriage. More importantly, I PRACTICE what I READ. In one week, I can learn what someone learned in 20 years of marriage and avoid making the mistakes others have made. Do I have fears about my marriage? Oh yes. But, I send fear packing as soon as it creeps in and I enforce my victory.
Equipping myself: Last month, I came across ➡️ Praying Over Your Husband’s Head. It is a three-day reading plan by YouVersion. The plan taught me to pray instead of arguing or trying so hard to make my husband do what I believe is right. It heightened my value for unity and God’s presence in the home (Ecclesiastes 4:12). I was reminded of the power of a praying wife. I loved the book so much, I bought a copy of the book the plan was developed from. The book is titled➡️ Prayers of Blessing over Your Husband
Prayer: When there is a disagreement, I don’t pray for my husband to do what I want. I pray that God gives my husband wisdom to do what’s best for the family. I have tried it several times and it works. My husband told me he’s been praying over my head too. I hundred percent believe it!
Christian Mommas, We are not helpless. Is there trouble in paradise? Pray over your husband’s head and yours too 🙂
Thank you for reading.
This is sooo good. I’ll have to check out that book!
Yes Sarah, you will not be disappointed! ♥️
Thanks for sharing the plans on YouVersion. I love that app and an currently doing the “Choosing Marriage” plan with my husband. I will have to check out this one after I finish.
Thank you. I will also check the “choosing marriage” plan. ♥️
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Awesome post! I did that reading plan a while back, very good. I might need to add that book to my Amazon cart😉
Haa, it’s a good one. Thank you ♥️
This is so good. Temi, Thanks.
My pleasure. Thanks for the comment ♥️
Beautiful post momma❤️. My parents divorced long before I got married. I always pray to God I want my marriage to be different and better. I love Youversion reading plans. Who is the writer of the book? I would really love to read it too. Thanks for sharing this post Temi. God bless you🙏🏾
Amen. Thank you for sharing a personal story. Bruce Wilkinson is the author. ♥️
You’re welcome dear. ❤
Wonderful advice. Thank you!
My pleasure ♥️
Whoa this is amazing. This was my morning devotion today.. God bless you and your family.
Amen! Yes, it is amazing. Thank you for taking time to comment.
Thank you for sharing the book! I SO need it!!!
My pleasure. I am glad you found it valuable.
God Almighty richly bless you for you writing. I love the fact that you want your marriage to work especially how you have seeing the devil create a pattern a divorce and marital failures. I often tell people the devil love pattern so when you stand to break it that is good. I wish many women could think like you. Please continue to be an example and empower women around you so that marriages can be better. Jesus Christ bless you.
Sorry I missed your comment. Thank you for the insightful comment and encouragement. Genetic transfer of trauma and generational curses are real. It is unfortunate that ignorance keeps Christians bound. Amen!
This so true, the Bible say study to show thyself approve. So many things follow bloodline but people sometimes allow the enemy to keep them in ignorance.
What a great idea to pray for your husband to do what’s right for your family rather than trying to change him to do what you want. I haven’t prayed for my husband in a while so this is a great reminder. Thank you for sharing!!
So good. I am 11 years in and grateful for all that God has done in our marriage, but I must confess, I must work on equipping. I never really saw it as all that important, but you make a good point, we can learn from the wisdom and experience of others.
Thank you for the reflective comment 🙂 It’s good to know you found this post useful. Stay blessed!
Excellent post and I love your words “In one week I can learn what someone else learned in twenty years.” Wise words indeed.
Thank you for your kind words!