A sad news was brought to my attention yesterday- China is experiencing a high divorce rate after COVID-19 lockdown and a divorce pandemic is expected to spread globally. Social distancing has left people with no choice but to stay at home with their spouse.
Personally, staying at home with my spouse has been wonderful. We are using this period to grow in faith and plan for the future. We recently joined a Christian zoom group for married couples. There is always room for growth in every relationship.
Spending more time with our spouses certainly exposes things we have not noticed about them and things they have not noticed about us. This presents an opportunity for us to make our marital relationship stronger and work out issues. It is not time to focus on flaws and shortcomings.
If something we truly love is broken, we should fight to fix it, restore it, and there should be no shame in doing that.
Divorce is terrible and God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). My heart particularly breaks for children who get caught up in the middle of a divorce. They get hurt more than their parents can imagine.
If this period has caused a strain in your marriage, please take time to work things out. Marital counseling services are available via telehealth, seek godly counsel, quit watching or following people that encourage divorce, and follow the truth, not your feelings.
Please check out Heart of a Wife blog. I have been blessed by the posts on Jeannie’s blog and I am sure you will also be blessed if you read with child’s heart. Also, please listen to this message on successful communication in marriage.
May God’s love rule in our hearts and home in Jesus name.
Wow. This is saddening. I pray for healing for these homes at this time. May there be healing for their hearts. 🙏
Amen. It is heartbreaking.
Praying that couples would be able to sustain the trails of this crisis.
Amen. Same here.
Praying that couples would find strength in the Lord🙏🙏🙏🙏 their hearts shall heal🙏🙏
Amen.
On the plus side, apparently I’ve heard there’s also going to be a “baby boom” in China in a few months! 😀
Yes, the country needs it and everyone of those babies deserve a happy home.
Amen!! You might be interested in our marriage blog – from two Christian divorcees who found each other. This was our most recent post: https://marriedstrong.com/2020/04/21/mission-accomplished/
Thank you. I will check it out.
This is very sad to hear. I really hope those poor people manage to find it in their hearts to work through hardships!
That’s my hope too.
I just wish things could go back to normal! 🙏
This is so sad to hear, for me and my husband have growing closer especially when I had a mild case of the virus, he stay awake and took care of me and watch me for days, I thank God he did. <3
I am thankful for you. Thank you for sharing your experience.
My love language is acts of service and quality time (same score) so I actually enjoy having my husband around (though he has still been working because he is considered “essential”). There have been times in our marriage where he has been at home for extended periods of time for one reason or another and yes it can be difficult because I’m a stay-at-home mom, so while I’m home w/ the kids things are run one way and then when daddy is home he tries to run things another which throws the kids all off and causes them stress and thus to fuss and act up because of the change, but I actually enjoy having my husband home. It’s so sad to think that people would want to get divorced because they are being forced to be around and spend more time with their spouse. This should be a blessing, not a curse. 🙁
Thank you for sharing your experience. It is amazing that you are able to balance the differences in your parenting styles. More time together is always a blessing, life is short.
It is sad that divorces are happening. I am glad you and your husband make your marriage a priority little sister 🙂
Thank you big brother!
It has been a blessing and a challenge both for us. I am using the prayers for marriage book you shared with me 💕 I love what you say – it’s worth restoring. It takes work, but the work makes it all the more precious and valuable.
Absolutely worth restoring. I am glad to know the book is serving its purpose. Thank you♥️
These times only exposes marriages that were found soley on lust, boredom, unreal expectations these are the fruits being manifested you can be fed up for yourself if it was truly done as long as you have not decided to quit existing for the two shall become one, i dont see a reason why there should be divorce these are the times that call for unity rather than separation
Wow that is so sad. We definitely need to be praying for families and marriages during this time. In our case, we’ve been enjoying time at home with each other as well.
Very sad. Praying. The enemy’s plan for families will fail.
Glad to hear you two are growing TOGETHER during this difficult time!
Divorce is often what’s best for a couple. Lockdown led to my discovery of my husbands emotional affair. Even though he cheated he kicked me out the house and put my things in bin bags. I had to move into an air bnb and listen to him gaslight me down the phone. I agree on working on a relationship but if the red flags are there and someone can treat you like that, there’s no shame in divorce
This is sad to read but very realistic. With the pandemic, it has definitely placed a strain on relationships.
Absolutely. Thank you for reflecting with me.