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When Your Child Doesn’t Come Home For The Holidays

The Thanksgiving season didn’t go quite how I planned after sending my son a text…”love to have you over,” and received no response. How quickly a hurt momma wants to just cancel the day and crawl into bed until the next day. Does this sound familiar? If so, I’m sorry. I would like to tell you that it gets better soon. That your prodigal child will finally hit rock bottom and realize that they need you in their life. They have to go through their own process, mistakes and life experiences….and we have to let them.

This Christmas season, I want to remind you that while you are praying and waiting, life doesn’t stop. Life keeps going, and you have to still walk out your purpose in God. My son is doing his own thing, and though I feel the effects of a sense of loss, I still have many reasons to be thankful, especially for the hope I have through Jesus.

While you wait and pray

Just like the father in the parable (Luke 15:11-32) we wait for our prodigal child to come to themselves. While we wait, we learn in the process. You learn:

 “Do not be anxious about anything but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your request be made known unto God. And the peace of God which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:6-7).” This promise of God’s peace guarding my heart helped me get through the hardest days and nights. Pray and mediate on the Word to receive peace only God can give.

During the wait for my son’s return, God kept taking me back to the parable of the prodigal son. The father never stopped waiting for his son’s return. Take note: He didn’t go after the prodigal son, he simply waited for his return.

So, he got up and started back to his father. “But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was moved with pity. He ran and threw his arms around him and kissed him warmly.” (Luke 15:20)

You may not be able to envision your story ending like this. You may be harboring a lot of hurt, resentment and maybe even some guilt. But extend forgiveness, even if you never get an apology. I’m thankful that my relationship with my son has been reconciled, but the healing progress has been a process.

I hope this helps someone.

God bless!!

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