The Key to Raising an Intelligent and Socially Adept Human: Part 2

In my previous post, I proposed that Building a relationship with your child is the key to raising an intelligent and socially adept human. This post suggests ways parents of children zero to eight years old can build a relationship that will impact their children's emotional and intellectual growth. Ways to Build a Relationship With…

The Key to Raising an Intelligent and Socially Adept Human: Part 1

This post is particularly for parents of children ages zero to eight because most of the studies referenced are based on this age group. So....new moms, that baby in your arms isn't "just a baby". That baby is the future and what you do with that baby today will impact him/her in adulthood. If your…

Love is a Choice

A young person asked me recently what is was like to adopt a child, “is it different?” That question got me to thinking just how similar adoption is to marriage. One day I didn’t know my husband, the next I did. A unique encounter that set us on this path of connection. We don’t have…

The Stay at home mom life: A season of intimacy with God

I am a wife and mother of 2 wonderful boys: a 3 year old and an 11 month old. It has taken me 4 years to say that with dignity and gratitude. 4 years of repenting, cleansing, molding before the Lord, to truly own up that role of a stay at home mother. 4 years…

How Early Childhood Experiences Shaped My Personality and Parenting Style

I grew up being a perfectionist, often times to avoid criticism from within the family. As an adult it carried over to my everyday life. Its caused problems in my workplace and relationships. Which carried over into areas of uncertainty in the form of self-doubt. I sought out affirmations from everyone and anyone.....

My Personal Testimony: Infertility and Miscarriage

So...... I was recently asked to share my testimony about God’s faithfulness through fertility issues and miscarriage... Honestly, I didn’t feel like it. It’s painful. It’s vulnerable. It’s not a happy topic. While I have shared these deep scars with other sisters in private, it’s not something I have ever done “publicly.” Partly, it is…

The Perfect Marriage

The perfect marriage is the united relationship between an imperfect man and an imperfect woman serving a perfect God. This man and woman are after God's heart despite their flaws. They work on their flaws while celebrating the beauty and uniqueness of each other. They forgive each other daily and do each other good everyday…

Adoption: It Isn’t Easy but It is Worth It

One glorious day, something insane happened and I got a smack to the face. A beautiful little baby, totally opposite of everything I knew, was handed to me. As an infant she fought me. She didn’t like to be snuggled, she wanted to be put down. She never looked me in the eyes, she was in her own world. She didn’t walk when I thought she should. She didn’t say momma or daddy until way past the time frame considered to be “normal”. . . . .

You Can Let Them Go Now, They’re Adults

BEYOND MY LIMITATIONS

As a child, I describe myself as an “old soul.”
Someone who acted older than her age. Growing up with a deaf parent I had to
“grow up” really fast. I didn’t have the typically childhood of those of my
peers being that I had to be the one who helped my mom handle business affairs.
But when I enter adulthood there were times, I grieved the loss of my
childhood. No longer could I snuggle up in my bed and my mom give me medicine
when I was sick. So much of my life’s toughest decisions I faced alone.

The world can be a cruel place. Friends forsake us,
people who we think we can count on turn their backs. Your adult children
should know that you are the one place where they can find acceptance. This
doesn’t mean we have to agree with our children’s choices; however, we…

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Here Today, Gone Tomorrow

"Bye, I will see you on ............", that's what I tell my clients at the end of every session. Sometimes, I don't get to keep those words because they are not a hundred percent mine to make happen. In August, I had a week of forced rest. I was too sick to work. I couldn't…

Intersubjectivity

While we are not experts in telepathy, we have a natural gift of knowing what someone else is thinking. When I find the little one doing something wrong, I know that he knows that I know that he knows that he is not doing the right thing. He is often quick to run away. We…

Source of Comfort

A month ago, I weaned the little one. He was exactly 15 month-old and I think that's good enough because I followed my momma instinct. It is great to breastfeed if one has no medical impediment. You can read more on breastfeeding by visiting the American Academy of Pediatrics website. Every mom should also be…

For the Season of Why Me

The little one's explorations are sometimes unsafe. When there is a sudden silence in the house, he can be found climbing a high chair to access items on the counter top or digging into the trash for idk what..He once reached for the burner and he sadly felt the heat. Parents of infants and toddlers…

The Happy Momma

The Happy Momma, She finds her sense of worth in God, not in motherhood. She first identifies as the daughter of the King of kings. She doesn't compare herself with others, she knows she was fearfully and wonderfully made like her sisters. She doesn't compare her children with others, she knows they are unique gifts…

Words are Seeds

For two years, my husband and I have been intentionally sowing seeds of affirmation in our girls. One of our adopted little girls had so much hurt even as a baby she wouldn’t look at herself in the mirror without crying. It was heartbreaking and something we absolutely refused to receive as ours, so we…

Thank You

The little one says thank you before and after he gets anything. I believe he thinks saying 'thank you' will get him anything. I am not surprised that the little one says thank you a lot. After-all, mommy and daddy say 'thank you' a lot. Thank you is not just a polite expression. It is…

Self-feeding

The little one is perfecting self-feeding with spoon. It is an important survival skill. The little one feels independent and accomplished as he explores the act of self-feeding. His smile and excitement when handed a spoon with a bowl of food says it all. Today, he was nice enough to feed me while I was…

Goals

Last week, I read about developmental goals for children ages 0 to 48 months and how parents can help babies achieve developmental goals, specifically in the areas of socio-emotional and brain growth. Do you know you can help your child become a socially adept human and stimulate your baby's brain development from the very moment…

Do You Care?

One thing I quickly learned as a behavior therapist is that my clients' parents don't really care about my scientific knowledge, academic and professional achievements. All they care about is my ability to do my job well from a place of love for their children. That's all that really matters! I have also learned that…