Spiritual Experiences of Motherhood
Recently, I came across two heartbreaking stories in the news. The first was about a father who was facing a life sentence in prison, for causing permanent damage to his newborn. The father woke up in the middle of the night to sooth his crying baby, and got more frustrated as the baby continued crying. The older son was also in the room with them, and the father got even more agitated....
These are few statements I heard as a new mom: "let the baby cry, he will not die", "don't spoil that baby", and "crying is good for his lungs". As I reflect on these statements from people with good intentions, I realize that those statements are not completely true. We can never spoil a baby.…
Written in celebration of Martin Luther King Jr. Day: I have a dream- a world where mom-shaming does not exist. I have a dream- a world where mothers teach their children that all humans are equal and no race is superior. I have a dream- a world where mothers celebrate their differences and lift each…
In seasons of discomfort, it is psychologically difficult to see the big picture....
When we praise God, our eyes are taken off self. Our attention is drawn to the one who is bigger than the challenges we face. In praise, we reflect on the greatness of God and it changes everything. It changes our mind, the way we see and think about our challenges. Our challenges become insignificant…
In parenting, there should be no competition between a mother and father. It is not wise to manipulate our children so that they would prefer one parent than the other. We should use our mother-child relationship to strengthen father-child relationship and vice versa. It is important for a mother and father to have a united…
"Mommy, Mommy, Mommy"...It sounds so good in my ears. May I never lose this excitement. I was told that hearing mommy repeatedly for 20 seconds gets on mommy's nerves later on in life. Well, I will cherish this moment and hope it does not get on my nerves later on in life. I am still…
The era of just do as I say is fading. Do as I do is one way to instill discipline in our children. Parents must be disciplined enough to model good behavior....
Developmental psychologists/theorists and gerontologists have found several connections between early childhood experiences and adulthood. Few months ago, I wrote about the impacts of childhood experiences, family history, and past experiences on child rearing and marriage. Seeking godly counsel and professional help were presented as practical ways for overcoming the Ghosts in our Marriage and Kicking…
While celebrities are influential people, parents hold a place of greater influence in their children's lives. You are your child's first love, first toy, and first role model. We must not allow our societies to become so progressive and liberal to the point that governments and celebrities begin to determine our family values and parental…
From birth and even in utero, parents shape their children's worldview. Parents, particularly mothers play an important role in the development of their child's superego, values, and personality. This is due to the strong tie that exists between the mother and child in infancy and early childhood. Fathers are uniquely important as well. My previous…
Continue reading ➞ Child Discipline: What Does the Bible Say?
Earlier last year, I lost value for gathering with fellow believers. Online church was my thing. There were Sundays I skipped church to meet academic deadlines, showed up late and used the little one as an excuse to just stream online. My motto for this was God understands. He truly understands. While God wants us…
Continue reading ➞ 2020 and Beyond: New Year, New Priorities
Mom-shaming is the act of criticizing a mother's parenting choices, her mothering practices. "What a bad mother, she is not breastfeeding??!", "Why is she co-sleeping? That's outdated.", "Why does she have so many children??", "She must be lazy, she is a stay-at-home mom.".. etc. Sometimes, it is done subtly. Mom-shaming makes a mother feel incompetent…
I wrote a 2019 final post but it was not published due to mommy duties. It ended up being deleted. Little children have a special way of throwing their parent's plans out the window. The little one has interrupted my plans countless times. Now, I make plans with consideration and accommodation for his ability to…
Continue reading ➞ Thoughts on New Year's Plans, Goals and Vision
This post has nothing to do with my motherhood experience. However, future moms going through a season of infertility may find this post encouraging. My hope is that this testimony would lift the spirit of someone in despair, feeling stagnant, like God has forgotten you. Everyone is celebrating a new year but you feel like…
Continue reading ➞ Testimony Time: Breakthrough after a Decade of Stagnancy
Cheers to new beginnings! Cheers to new adventures! Cheers to a new decade! It is a good day to be alive, and I am thankful you are alive to read this! We are breaking limits this year!
"Nooo, don't go there", "Don't touch...mummy said, don't touch!", "Don't throw", "come back here please", "hold mummy's hand"..... These are common phrases I find myself repeating countless times a day to my charming, energetic toddler. While writing this post, she was chattering away in baby language. She also played with a standing fan I have…
Motherhood is a joyful experience and life is beautiful. Yet...... Sometimes, I have a heavy heart. Sometimes, I can feel thick clouds of darkness. Sometimes, it feels like there is a weight on me. Sometimes, I feel like crying as I pity myself. Sometimes, I feel hopeless. Sometimes, I feel insignificant. But ALWAYS, God is…
This is the miracle of Christmas: 2000+ years ago, God became flesh and dwelled amongst us for 30+ years, and today, he dwells in those who open up their hearts to him. We can celebrate and experience this miracle forever! The miracle of having a personal relationship with God. I pray that you will experience…
After a curious Google search, I discovered one of the little one's daycare caregivers is a lesbian. Honestly, I felt uncomfortable. Why was I feeling uncomfortable that this nice openly homosexual lady was taking care of my little one? For a split second, I thought she would spread this homosexual spirit to my child. That…
Faith is ridiculous. People will ridicule you for having the audacity to believe God can make an exception for you. The momma who lost her 2 year old daughter does not want to let her daughter go. She has chosen to believe that the God she serves can resurrect her daughter.....
"Sleep in Heavenly peace" is a beautiful melodic phrase taken from the timeless Christmas Carol classic, Silent Night. Baby Jesus, the King of Kings and Lord of Lords slept peacefully in his makeshift crib in a humble stall, while Herod and Jerusalem were troubled about his birth (Matthew 2:3). The fully grown Jesus slept so…
Giving to someone who cannot return the favor is one of the most joyful things to do. As parents, we give the gift of time, love, money, and more to our children because that's what parents do, and most times we expect nothing in return. Especially when our children are developmentally incapable of giving back.…
This season comes with a lot of expenses. It got me thinking about our motives and the impact of financial debt on the family. Decorating the house, buying household items and gifts on credit just to keep up with societal expectations is sadly associated with this season. Instead of spending to keep up with the…
In God's kingdom, giving and receiving are important. While it is more blessed to give than to receive (Acts 20:35), receiving is also important. How can we fulfill God's purpose for our lives if we do not receive God's free gifts and enjoy the benefits of being a giver (Luke 6:38). Yesterday, I read a…
