We all expect the mother of a newborn to be happy, we expect mothers to not abuse their children, and we always assume mothers will form a healthy bond with their child. Sadly, this isn’t always the case. Some moms struggle with bonding, are depressed, and feel like someone else will be better off mothering their child. Some moms just seem to fail despite telling themselves, “I want something better for my child” or “I don’t want my child to experience what I experienced as a child”. We are always quick to judge these mothers because we don’t know their stories…..
Isn’t it sad that history repeats itself even when we say “I will never do that” or “I want something better for me and my children”? Why do most people who watched their parents fight constantly; watched their father get drunk and abused their mother; and noticed their mother or father obsessively control the home repeat the same thing. Why do they repeat their history of trauma despite desiring something better?