Adoption: It Isn’t Easy but It is Worth It

One glorious day, something insane happened and I got a smack to the face. A beautiful little baby, totally opposite of everything I knew, was handed to me. As an infant she fought me. She didn’t like to be snuggled, she wanted to be put down. She never looked me in the eyes, she was in her own world. She didn’t walk when I thought she should. She didn’t say momma or daddy until way past the time frame considered to be “normal”. . . . .

You Can Let Them Go Now, They’re Adults

BEYOND MY LIMITATIONS

As a child, I describe myself as an “old soul.”
Someone who acted older than her age. Growing up with a deaf parent I had to
“grow up” really fast. I didn’t have the typically childhood of those of my
peers being that I had to be the one who helped my mom handle business affairs.
But when I enter adulthood there were times, I grieved the loss of my
childhood. No longer could I snuggle up in my bed and my mom give me medicine
when I was sick. So much of my life’s toughest decisions I faced alone.

The world can be a cruel place. Friends forsake us,
people who we think we can count on turn their backs. Your adult children
should know that you are the one place where they can find acceptance. This
doesn’t mean we have to agree with our children’s choices; however, we…

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Intersubjectivity

While we are not experts in telepathy, we have a natural gift of knowing what someone else is thinking. When I find the little one doing something wrong, I know that he knows that I know that he knows that he is not doing the right thing. He is often quick to run away. We…

The Happy Momma

The Happy Momma, She finds her sense of worth in God, not in motherhood. She first identifies as the daughter of the King of kings. She doesn't compare herself with others, she knows she was fearfully and wonderfully made like her sisters. She doesn't compare her children with others, she knows they are unique gifts…

Self-feeding

The little one is perfecting self-feeding with spoon. It is an important survival skill. The little one feels independent and accomplished as he explores the act of self-feeding. His smile and excitement when handed a spoon with a bowl of food says it all. Today, he was nice enough to feed me while I was…

Do You Care?

One thing I quickly learned as a behavior therapist is that my clients' parents don't really care about my scientific knowledge, academic and professional achievements. All they care about is my ability to do my job well from a place of love for their children. That's all that really matters! I have also learned that…

Ice Cream Lessons

What were we thinking? Yesterday, we gave the little one ice cream at a church event few hours before his bed time. After hours of trying hard to comfort him and put him to sleep, we realized giving him ice-cream was a bad idea. The little one enjoyed the ice-cream experience but it wasn't worth…

God as Your Father-in-Law

The enemy’s goal is to divide and conquer our home. He needs our partnership to fulfill his evil mission. The rate of divorce in the church is alarming. The family is the bedrock of every society. Divorce contributes to societal breakdown, it affects the emotional well being of couples and their children. If Christians get marriage right, the world will get it right. John 13:35, they will know we are Christians by our love. Love is patient, kind, long-suffering, selfless, doesn’t bear record of wrong (1 Corinthians 13: 4-8).

This post by Michael Griego will change how you view your spouse. If God is your father-in-law, how will you treat your spouse? Enjoy this powerful message!

Biblical Viewpoint

Most of us go into marriage with good intentions but selfish hearts. If you want to change your marriage, spend some time thinking about God as your Father-in-Law.

From a worldly perspective, if you review even a portion of the vast array of books and advice on good practices in healthy marriages, you can generate a long list of keys to happiness and success. But if you approach marriage from a Biblical perspective and look at marriage as the God-ordained construct it is, marital happiness and success can be surmised from just a few verses in the Old Testament (Genesis 2:24) cited by Jesus himself in the New Testament (Matthew 19:4-6), and an extended passage written by the Apostle Paul (Ephesians 5:22-32).

From these verses, I’d summarize the Biblical view and keys to a happy marriage as follows:

  • Both husband and wife love, honor, and worship God.
  • The husband…

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Trouble in Paradise: Praying Over My Husband’s Head

Earlier today, I learned the possibility of experiencing heaven on earth in marital-relationship. So, here I am writing about what I learned recently as a wife. Marriage and Parenting: I believe a healthy marriage makes parenting easy. So, motherhood and marital relationship work together. To the single mommas, you are the strongest women alive and…

Grieving Parents

While working as a healthcare specialist in the U.S. Army, I had to pre-screen patients before directing them to the doctor. I remember being briefed about a young female soldier grieving the loss of her child. I can't remember the full details surrounding the baby's death. I remember being told to be very sensitive when…

Balancing Life: God, Marriage, Motherhood, Work, PhD, Blogging and more

Minutes ago, I received a very personal and timely email. The message brought me peace and calm. I believe it will bring you comfort and encouragement. Visit propelwomen.org for more empowering messages This message is timely because I have been working on ways to balance all my responsibilities without leaving out the God-factor which holds…

Breastfeeding and Weaning Tips

I am getting close to reclaiming my boobs. It will no longer be used as a pacifier, midnight snack, daytime comforter, bonding tool, and all the good stuffs associated with breastfeeding. It's been a slow and steady weaning process for the little one and it has been quite an easy journey for me. I am…

Sleep is your superpower | Matt Walker

Sleep is not overrated, mommas and pappas! Take a break, ask for help, and sleep. New moms with one child, please sleep when your baby sleeps. Everything can wait. Mommas with multiple kids, please prioritize sleep/rest. If you find it difficult to sleep at night despite doing all that is recommended by the scientist/expert in this video, just talk to God about difficulty sleeping. He knows anyways. Remember Psalm 127:2 “In vain you rise early and stay up late, toiling for food to eat– for he grants sleep to those he loves.” Enjoy this ever timely post by fellow blogger Schulter @schulteretyang.com

SCHULTER ETYANG

5 min read. 20 min video.

One of my earliest blog posts was on sleep. The heading was/is, Grace and the beauty of sleep. You can read it here. I had stumbled on this truth about sleep—that within the Christian scriptures, God spoke to people in their sleep. God, very few times spoke to people who were wide awake. The message of the post was to encourage us to relax a bit. Take it easy. Go to sleep and let God do the night shift.

Sleep is a fundamental gospel truth, and this truth is a thread that runs throughout the Christian scriptures. In my earlier post, I highlighted instances of sleep and the results. For example, in the garden, when God wanted to give Adam a wife, he put him to sleep. When God wanted to give his son, Jesus, a new wife, he put him to sleep…

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Prayer In The Waiting Room

This is what being a Christian Momma looks like, seeing people through God’s eyes and carrying God’s presence everywhere we go. Not because we are perfect, but because we serve a God willing to work through imperfect vessels. Enjoy this great post by fellow blogger, Dawn @drawingclosertochrist.com

Drawing Closer to Christ

Colossians 4:2 NLT, “Devote yourselves to prayer with an alert mind and a thankful heart.”

Yesterday I had to go visit the GYN for my annual exam. It’s a very busy place, so when I go, I always know that I’ll be waiting at least an hour before I see the doctor, but this time my wait ended up being an hour and a half. I waited one hour in the main waiting room, and thirty minutes in the exam room.

All the women I saw were anticipating the arrival of a little one. I thought to myself, at this point in my life, I wouldn’t want to change places with them. But I also remember when I was there like them, expecting my daughter, and how exciting it was as the time for her arrival drew closer. It’s hard to believe how fast the years have flown by.

I…

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What will you do?

What if I told you there is someone relentlessly strategizing and mobilizing a group of people to cause your child pain. What will you do? What if I told you there is someone studying your child's tendencies, vulnerabilities, and weaknesses with the sole intent of harming your child. What will you do? What if I…

Are your decisions faith-based or fear-based?

Less than two weeks after the little one started attending daycare, I was told he would be moved to another class because his motor skills were advanced for the beginners class and it was time for him to start feeding himself. Well, I wasn't too excited about the news. The little one was just beginning…

SAHM: 3 Ways to Overcome Insecurities

This blog post was inspired by the feedback received from my last post, Dealing with Insecurities: Stay-at-Home Mom.Please check it out. I addressed some of the insecurities we face as stay-at-home mamas. Instead of dwelling on our feelings of insecurities, it is time to face this issue head on. Let's grab a cup of coffee,…

Teething Lessons

It took almost one year for the little one to grow two front teeth. Meanwhile, he started "teething" when he was 4 months old. Teething was uncomfortable. The little one kept chewing on his fingers, teething toys, and anything mouthable. There were instances where he was grinding his gum. Interestingly, the absence of teeth didn't…

Dealing with Insecurities: Stay-at-Home Mom

Every woman's life is a unique mixture of challenges, blessings, victories, goal achievements, failures, heartbreaks, divorce or marriage success and so on. Even motherhood takes on different set of values, experiences, and choices. This is because our career paths, mindsets, beliefs, and opportunities differ. Some moms enjoy the privilege of staying home full-time with their…

They Hear God

Early in March, we visited grandma. After spending the day and saying a 10 minute emotional goodbye, we finally got the kids in the car. One child was having an exceptionally hard night and acting in an unusual way. We decided to take a few minutes and everyone in the car had to say one…

Off to Daycare

Today, we left our little one in the care of people we don't know. It takes a lot of faith and courage to do that. Please don't judge parents for enrolling their babies in daycare, it's not an easy thing to do. For me, faith in God made leaving the little one in daycare bearable.…

Postpartum Problems 2

Two months ago, my fitness coach shared this powerful devotional by Joseph Prince. I decided to revisit it because I need a testimony and a reminder that sound mind is my inheritance. Dare to believe this with me! I am desperately in need of a perfectly functioning brain at this time in my life. It…

This Day Last Year: Supernatural Birth Story

I must confess that I once thought that I didn't have the supernatural birth experience I desperately desired. I forgot that the birth of a healthy whole baby via a successful C-Section was in fact supernatural. This day last year was the scariest day of my life so far. Mentally preparing for an unplanned C-section…

The Power of a Sandwich Picture

I snapped a photo of my adopted daughter recently and something new hit me. You see the way she is holding that sandwich? That’s how I hold a sandwich. Adoption is a funny thing. For me, identifying similarities is a blast. I love to watch my birth daughter and see my mother in law or…