Grieving Parents

While working as a healthcare specialist in the U.S. Army, I had to pre-screen patients before directing them to the doctor. I remember being briefed about a young female soldier grieving the loss of her child. I can’t remember the full details surrounding the baby’s death. I remember being told to be very sensitive when conversing with the patient.

While pre-screening, the young female soldier cried and talked about breast-milk being produced because her brain thinks she already gave birth. I didn’t know how to respond or react. I didn’t have a word for her…and that’s okay.

I was deeply sad and felt her pain. However, the interesting thing is that I felt her pain more today than when she cried in my presence. I believe it is because I have experienced what it is to be an expecting momma and it is hard to imagine the loss of one’s child. In fact, I remember prescreening this soldier when she was preparing to take a break from the military so she could give motherhood everything. I remember the excitement in her voice.

The grief I felt brought me here:

Isaiah 53:3 (NLT) He was despised and rejected— a man of sorrows, acquainted with deepest grief. We turned our backs on him and looked the other way. He was despised, and we did not care.

God’s son died. Jesus was separated from His father and deserted by those He loved.

I feel like this is a message for a grieving mom and dad. I cannot answer your questions but I know God loves you and He is the only one who can comfort. I am sorry and I am praying for you.

I pray that God’s love overwhelms you right now and peace floods your heart. I pray that your sorrow turns to joy and your mourning turns to dancing. I pray that you begin to sing a new song and receive strength this season. I pray that the circumstances the enemy planned to use in destabilizing your home and stealing your peace will launch you into a life of greater purpose. In Jesus name we pray. Amen.

In the comment section, feel free to share a blog post on how to cope with grief as parents and how we can help grieving parents.

Thank you.


  1. Wow sis, very well written post,deeply reflective and pointing us to the truth of Gods word. I never actually read the verse in this light. That God who is acquainted with the deepest of grief can relate to any grief we all go through, most especially the death and loss of His only son

  2. We lost a son 6 years ago. I love your prayer in this blog. I think one of the most significant things that God has used to help us in our grief–is to give us a purpose. Parenting our children–responding to their needs, was the lifeline God gave us, to bring us back into the land of the living.

  3. Wow great writing and beautiful verse to reflect on!!

    It’s so important to keep God as our lifeline 24/7 so that we rely on Him during the good, bad, and the in between. Having a healthy relationship with Him makes life so much easier in the whirlwind and in the calm.