Adoption Awareness Month: My Adoption Story

My life would have been different if my grandfather and aunt did not give me the gift of opportunity. That is what children in institutions need, an opportunity to be a child, have a family, to be loved and have somewhere they too can call home.....

Walking in Mommy’s Shoes

I looked on in amusement as my daughter slid her cute little right foot into my black ballet flats, and after countless attempts, had her first success! Her foot slid to the front of my shoe and she clack-thudded the width of our master bedroom with surprising grace. How her one foot managed to stay…

Practical Ways to Kick Out Ghosts in the Nursery

Following up on yesterday's post, I am presenting ways to kick out Ghosts in the Nursery. If you didn't read yesterday's blog post, please read it here. There is no good in presenting a problem without offering solutions. The Nursery is the parent-child relationship. The Ghosts are traumatic experiences in our lineage and those we…

Ghosts in the Nursery

We all expect the mother of a newborn to be happy, we expect mothers to not abuse their children, and we always assume mothers will form a healthy bond with their child. Sadly, this isn't always the case. Some moms struggle with bonding, are depressed, and feel like someone else will be better off mothering their child. Some moms just seem to fail despite telling themselves, "I want something better for my child" or "I don't want my child to experience what I experienced as a child". We are always quick to judge these mothers because we don't know their stories.....

4 Ways to Protect your Children from Becoming Victims of Racism

Two days ago, My dear sister, kim Petitt shared her personal experience as a mother raising a Black son in the 21st Century. Please read her short post HERE. We can't trust our governments to protect our children. They are failing every child regardless of race. While some local churches are speaking up through the…

Raising a Black son in the 21st century

Feeling afraid is a natural feeling of being a new mom. We’ve all laid awake at night pondering questions like, “do I have what it takes to raise this tiny human being when I don’t have my own life figured out?” “Am I going to ruin this kid?” But soon after the birth of my…

Mommy, Why don’t we celebrate Halloween?

The goal of this post isn't to condemn Christians who celebrate Halloween. My intention is to help Mommas/parents who don't want their family to participate in Halloween or don't know if it's okay to join the celebration. We spread love and truth on this blog. This book is available on Amazon. It helped me understand…

The Key to Raising an Intelligent and Socially Adept Human: Part 2

In my previous post, I proposed that Building a relationship with your child is the key to raising an intelligent and socially adept human. This post suggests ways parents of children zero to eight years old can build a relationship that will impact their children's emotional and intellectual growth. Ways to Build a Relationship With…

The Key to Raising an Intelligent and Socially Adept Human: Part 1

This post is particularly for parents of children ages zero to eight because most of the studies referenced are based on this age group. So....new moms, that baby in your arms isn't "just a baby". That baby is the future and what you do with that baby today will impact him/her in adulthood. If your…

Love is a Choice

A young person asked me recently what is was like to adopt a child, “is it different?” That question got me to thinking just how similar adoption is to marriage. One day I didn’t know my husband, the next I did. A unique encounter that set us on this path of connection. We don’t have…

How Early Childhood Experiences Shaped My Personality and Parenting Style

I grew up being a perfectionist, often times to avoid criticism from within the family. As an adult it carried over to my everyday life. Its caused problems in my workplace and relationships. Which carried over into areas of uncertainty in the form of self-doubt. I sought out affirmations from everyone and anyone.....

You Can Let Them Go Now, They’re Adults

BEYOND MY LIMITATIONS

As a child, I describe myself as an “old soul.”
Someone who acted older than her age. Growing up with a deaf parent I had to
“grow up” really fast. I didn’t have the typically childhood of those of my
peers being that I had to be the one who helped my mom handle business affairs.
But when I enter adulthood there were times, I grieved the loss of my
childhood. No longer could I snuggle up in my bed and my mom give me medicine
when I was sick. So much of my life’s toughest decisions I faced alone.

The world can be a cruel place. Friends forsake us,
people who we think we can count on turn their backs. Your adult children
should know that you are the one place where they can find acceptance. This
doesn’t mean we have to agree with our children’s choices; however, we…

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For the Season of Why Me

The little one's explorations are sometimes unsafe. When there is a sudden silence in the house, he can be found climbing a high chair to access items on the counter top or digging into the trash for idk what..He once reached for the burner and he sadly felt the heat. Parents of infants and toddlers…

Thank You

The little one says thank you before and after he gets anything. I believe he thinks saying 'thank you' will get him anything. I am not surprised that the little one says thank you a lot. After-all, mommy and daddy say 'thank you' a lot. Thank you is not just a polite expression. It is…

Baby’s First Words

From dada to bae, then "bye bye", "thank you", "sorry", "apple", attempts to say "ball", and long conversations I really wish we understand. I am in awe! It sounds like speaking in tongues for the first time. It is safe to say mommy, daddy and the little one's teachers are doing a great job building…

Grieving Parents

While working as a healthcare specialist in the U.S. Army, I had to pre-screen patients before directing them to the doctor. I remember being briefed about a young female soldier grieving the loss of her child. I can't remember the full details surrounding the baby's death. I remember being told to be very sensitive when…

Sleep is your superpower | Matt Walker

Sleep is not overrated, mommas and pappas! Take a break, ask for help, and sleep. New moms with one child, please sleep when your baby sleeps. Everything can wait. Mommas with multiple kids, please prioritize sleep/rest. If you find it difficult to sleep at night despite doing all that is recommended by the scientist/expert in this video, just talk to God about difficulty sleeping. He knows anyways. Remember Psalm 127:2 “In vain you rise early and stay up late, toiling for food to eat– for he grants sleep to those he loves.” Enjoy this ever timely post by fellow blogger Schulter @schulteretyang.com

SCHULTER ETYANG

5 min read. 20 min video.

One of my earliest blog posts was on sleep. The heading was/is, Grace and the beauty of sleep. You can read it here. I had stumbled on this truth about sleep—that within the Christian scriptures, God spoke to people in their sleep. God, very few times spoke to people who were wide awake. The message of the post was to encourage us to relax a bit. Take it easy. Go to sleep and let God do the night shift.

Sleep is a fundamental gospel truth, and this truth is a thread that runs throughout the Christian scriptures. In my earlier post, I highlighted instances of sleep and the results. For example, in the garden, when God wanted to give Adam a wife, he put him to sleep. When God wanted to give his son, Jesus, a new wife, he put him to sleep…

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SAHM: 3 Ways to Overcome Insecurities

This blog post was inspired by the feedback received from my last post, Dealing with Insecurities: Stay-at-Home Mom.Please check it out. I addressed some of the insecurities we face as stay-at-home mamas. Instead of dwelling on our feelings of insecurities, it is time to face this issue head on. Let's grab a cup of coffee,…

Child Proofing the House

The little one is beginning to test us and play smart. You lock a door and he finds a way to get in through another. He is becoming a master in hiding and running away with items that don't belong in his mouth. Child Proofing is all about anticipating what a child can do and…

Dealing with Insecurities: Stay-at-Home Mom

Every woman's life is a unique mixture of challenges, blessings, victories, goal achievements, failures, heartbreaks, divorce or marriage success and so on. Even motherhood takes on different set of values, experiences, and choices. This is because our career paths, mindsets, beliefs, and opportunities differ. Some moms enjoy the privilege of staying home full-time with their…

Fighting Diaper Change

I don't know where the little one learned the combative skills he uses during diaper change. Most times, I have to give him a preferred item to prevent him from taking off or kicking my face during diaper change. Certainly, soaking wet and poopy diapers are not comfortable. Fresh diapers must feel so good. But,…

They Hear God

Early in March, we visited grandma. After spending the day and saying a 10 minute emotional goodbye, we finally got the kids in the car. One child was having an exceptionally hard night and acting in an unusual way. We decided to take a few minutes and everyone in the car had to say one…

Off to Daycare

Today, we left our little one in the care of people we don't know. It takes a lot of faith and courage to do that. Please don't judge parents for enrolling their babies in daycare, it's not an easy thing to do. For me, faith in God made leaving the little one in daycare bearable.…