Day 6: Are there Ghosts in the Nursery?

Keeping mercy for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, and that will by no means clear the guilty; visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children, and upon the children’s children, unto the third and to the fourth generation.

Exodus 34:7 (KJV)

The nursery can be described as the place of security for the child.  The Nursery is the parent-child relationship. Trauma and generational issues often show up uninvited like ghosts to interfere with parent-infant relationship and continue the inter-generational cycle of trauma.  A mother who was abused and neglected as a child may become an abusive mother.  Some parents just seem to fail despite telling themselves, “I want something better for my child” or “I don’t want my child to experience what I experienced as a child”.  

Several studies show that parents who suppressed emotions of childhood trauma transferred trauma to their children.  Studies in the field of Infant Mental Health show that parents begin to heal and empathize with their infants after they remember the grief, and pain they felt in early childhood.  They finally felt what their children were feeling and could not tolerate having their children feel what they felt as children.  All these were carried out in a therapeutic setting. If you are concerned about family history of trauma, you can ask God to lead you to a good therapist. You can claim and enforce your redemption from the curse of the law (Galatians 3:13).

Are there issues in your life that may prevent you from creating a nurturing and responsive environment for your child?  Are there issues that may prevent you from connecting with your newborn? Ask God to show you things that may interfere with your ability to connect with your little one.  It is time to get to the root of problems, uproot and destroy them before the roots go deeper. Your alliance with God can put an end to the cycle of trauma in your lineage.

Prayer: Thank you father that you have redeemed my family from the curse of the Law because of Jesus.  I receive your freedom and declare victory over generational curses in Jesus name.

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      1. Yes, Temi, I fully understand, because I am also a trauma survivor, and had to be cautious , since I knew that my trauma could affect my parenting.
        It is God’s gift to us to help us find a Christian counsellor, because, although secular counsellors may be well trained, they do not operate ‘on the same wavelength’ as those of us who live our lives in tune with the Holy Spirit.
        The bonding and attunement we have with our little ones during their infancy and early years will determine our lifelong relationships with them, and also will equip them well to form healthy relationships with others.
        Trauma issues need to resolved very gently, with the Lord’s help. They are best addressed in an environment of great trust, little by little.
        I continue to pray for you and the interesting and valuable work that you are doing. 🤗

          1. It is always the Holy Spirit who lays certain people on our hearts to pray for pray for you daily, and the very important work you are doing to help families. Doing a doctorate is challenging. I felt like stopping about 50 times, but I knew there were people helping me, and supporting me through prayer. 😁

              1. You are in my prayers throughout the day. I’m sure you have had the experience of the Holy Spirit bringing someone specific to your mind throughout the day. Perhaps it is just the times that you are needing some extra encouragement that I feel led to pray for you.
                Your work is very valuable. The Lord has greatly blessed with with many areas of giftedness. 🤗