Let Their Voices Be Heard- My Interview with Temi of Christian Mommas Part 4

This post is perfect for this day. Are you transferring trauma to your children? Why is it difficult for African-Americans to “get over it!”? How is trauma transferred from one generation to another? I addressed these questions in my 4th blog series with papa Matt. Please watch this video, read the post, and let us hear your thoughts. Our children deserve only the best from us. Be blessed! 🙏❤

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I am so thankful that Temi has done this interview series with me. I admire her for how much she has overcome and accomplished.

This is part 4 of my interview with Temi of christianmommas.com. In Part 1 she shared about experiencing discrimination. In Part 2 she shared about hardships as an international student. In Part 3 she shared about what inspired her to write her wonderful book A Christian Mother’s Creed. Today she shares about intergenerational effect of slavery and racism.

Please explain generational effect of slavery and racism. Do you have concerns for your children?

There is a video below summarizing the content of this post. You may watch the video or simply read this post. 

Do I have concerns for my children?

I do not have concerns about my children experiencing racism because I have handed this concern over to God and I make a conscious…

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Let Their Voices Be Heard- My Interview with Temi of Christian Mommas Part 3

Last Friday, I continued my blog series with papa Matt. We discussed my first book, A Christian Mother’s Creed. Why was the book written? Please take a moment to read the short post. Tomorrow, we will discuss the intergenerational transfer of trauma within the context of slavery and racism. You don’t want to miss it! Thank you all for your support 🙂

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Each time I have the opportunity to interact with Temi it is a blessing for me. I am so proud of all she has accomplished in her life through Jesus’ strength and help. One of her accomplishments is her wonderful blog christinamommas.com. Today she shares what inspired her to write her book- A Christian Mother’s Creed.

In Part 1 she shared about a time she experienced racism. In Part 2 she shared her real life story of going from international student to being in the military.

I have read her book. Of course I will never be a mom, but I found application in replacing the word teacher for mom and the word students for children. It is an excellent book to read.

  1. What inspired you to write your book A Christian Mother’s Creed?

Many events inspired me to write A Christian Mother’s Creed. It began with a strong…

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Day 6: Are there Ghosts in the Nursery?

Keeping mercy for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, and that will by no means clear the guilty; visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children, and upon the children's children, unto the third and to the fourth generation. Exodus 34:7 (KJV) The nursery can be described as the place of security for the child.…

Overcoming Trauma: Freedom Walk

Developmental psychologists/theorists and gerontologists have found several connections between early childhood experiences and adulthood. Few months ago, I wrote about the impacts of childhood experiences, family history, and past experiences on child rearing and marriage. Seeking godly counsel and professional help were presented as practical ways for overcoming the Ghosts in our Marriage and Kicking…

Practical Ways to Kick Out Ghosts in the Nursery

Following up on yesterday's post, I am presenting ways to kick out Ghosts in the Nursery. If you didn't read yesterday's blog post, please read it here. There is no good in presenting a problem without offering solutions. The Nursery is the parent-child relationship. The Ghosts are traumatic experiences in our lineage and those we…

Ghosts in the Nursery

We all expect the mother of a newborn to be happy, we expect mothers to not abuse their children, and we always assume mothers will form a healthy bond with their child. Sadly, this isn't always the case. Some moms struggle with bonding, are depressed, and feel like someone else will be better off mothering their child. Some moms just seem to fail despite telling themselves, "I want something better for my child" or "I don't want my child to experience what I experienced as a child". We are always quick to judge these mothers because we don't know their stories.....

Ghosts in our Marriage

Isn’t it sad that history repeats itself even when we say “I will never do that” or “I want something better for me and my children”? Why do most people who watched their parents fight constantly; watched their father get drunk and abused their mother; and noticed their mother or father obsessively control the home repeat the same thing. Why do they repeat their history of trauma despite desiring something better?