Advancing God's Kingdom in the Family System
Our Advent adventure continues!! It’s Day 4…you can catch up on previous posts here Ram the father of Amminadab, Amminadab the father of Nahshon, Nahshon the father of Salmon, Salmon the father of Boaz, whose mother was Rahab.. Matthew 1:4-5 (NIV) Rahab is the second woman listed in Matthew’s account of Jesus’ genealogy. Rahab was […]
Our Advent adventure continues!! Ram the father of Amminadab, Amminadab the father of Nahshon, Nahshon the father of Salmon, Salmon the father of Boaz, whose mother was Rahab.. Matthew 1:4-5 (NIV) Rahab is the second woman listed in Matthew’s account of Jesus’ genealogy. Rahab was a woman of faith born into a family and nation […]
Tamar was the first woman mentioned in Matthew’s account of Jesus’ genealogy. Ur, Tamar’s first husband, was extremely wicked. For this reason, the most merciful and patient God killed him. Ur’s wickedness suggests Tamar must have been in an abusive marital relationship. After Ur’s death, tradition required Tamar to marry her late husband’s younger brother, […]
As the fining pot for silver, and the furnace for gold; so is a man to his praise.Proverbs 27:21 (KJV) This time last year, I was in the labor room. Exhausted and heartbroken. 10 cm dilated but a cesarean section is required. The pain of unmet birth expectation. It felt like laboring in vain. The […]
This year, I have made faith-filled decisions to step out of my comfort zone. I transitioned from primarily writing about mental health to include public speaking. Public speaking is usually nerve-racking for me, but I hold on to God’s response to Moses when public speaking opportunities are extended to me. Exodus 4:10 (NLT) says “But […]
The pain of unmet expectations and unanswered prayers can cause one to question God’s existence and love. This year, I had seasons of disappointment and I briefly entertained the enemy’s lies. Thankfully, God’s Word anchored me. In the valley, God reassured me of his love and presence. When I saw Tasting Dirt: When You’re Disappointed […]
Last year, I wrote a blog post on “God and the Sex Scandal Lineage“. This year, I wrote a devotional study on the life of Tamar- the first woman listed in the genealogy of Jesus. Tamar was traumatized, abused, rejected, and she committed incest. Yet, God saw it fit to have her in Jesus’ lineage. […]
Naturally, we find it easy to predict people’s future based on their story or history. Particularly when something tragic or traumatic happens to an individual. It is natural to assume that such individual’s future is ruined. We often forget that change is inevitable, individuals can sometimes rewrite their stories through will power, and even more beautiful […]
This post is perfect for this day. Are you transferring trauma to your children? Why is it difficult for African-Americans to “get over it!”? How is trauma transferred from one generation to another? I addressed these questions in my 4th blog series with papa Matt. Please watch this video, read the post, and let us […]
Last Friday, I continued my blog series with papa Matt. We discussed my first book, A Christian Mother’s Creed. Why was the book written? Please take a moment to read the short post. Tomorrow, we will discuss the intergenerational transfer of trauma within the context of slavery and racism. You don’t want to miss it! […]
Keeping mercy for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, and that will by no means clear the guilty; visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children, and upon the children’s children, unto the third and to the fourth generation. Exodus 34:7 (KJV) The nursery can be described as the place of security for the child. […]
Developmental psychologists/theorists and gerontologists have found several connections between early childhood experiences and adulthood. Few months ago, I wrote about the impacts of childhood experiences, family history, and past experiences on child rearing and marriage. Seeking godly counsel and professional help were presented as practical ways for overcoming the Ghosts in our Marriage and Kicking […]
Following up on yesterday’s post, I am presenting ways to kick out Ghosts in the Nursery. If you didn’t read yesterday’s blog post, please read it here. There is no good in presenting a problem without offering solutions. The Nursery is the parent-child relationship. The Ghosts are traumatic experiences in our lineage and those we […]
We all expect the mother of a newborn to be happy, we expect mothers to not abuse their children, and we always assume mothers will form a healthy bond with their child. Sadly, this isn’t always the case. Some moms struggle with bonding, are depressed, and feel like someone else will be better off mothering their child. Some moms just seem to fail despite telling themselves, “I want something better for my child” or “I don’t want my child to experience what I experienced as a child”. We are always quick to judge these mothers because we don’t know their stories…..
Isn’t it sad that history repeats itself even when we say “I will never do that” or “I want something better for me and my children”? Why do most people who watched their parents fight constantly; watched their father get drunk and abused their mother; and noticed their mother or father obsessively control the home repeat the same thing. Why do they repeat their history of trauma despite desiring something better?
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