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How to Support Foster and Adoptive Families
There are millions of ways to help a foster family, but you know what all of those apply to people in every situation. The woman down the road that just had surgery, the man who lost his wife, and the new momma. I believe the most important thing you can do to support a foster family or any family is to……
Love is a Choice
A young person asked me recently what is was like to adopt a child, “is it different?” That question got […]
Adoption: It Isn’t Easy but It is Worth It
One glorious day, something insane happened and I got a smack to the face. A beautiful little baby, totally opposite of everything I knew, was handed to me. As an infant she fought me. She didn’t like to be snuggled, she wanted to be put down. She never looked me in the eyes, she was in her own world. She didn’t walk when I thought she should. She didn’t say momma or daddy until way past the time frame considered to be “normal”. . . . .
Words are Seeds
For two years, my husband and I have been intentionally sowing seeds of affirmation in our girls. One of our […]
My Boot Camp
I had a dream two years ago that I was being sent to boot camp. At the time I knew […]
Celebrating Recovery: My Dad’s Story
Did you know, this month is National Recovery Month? With his permission to share, here is a part of my […]
The Mind, The Battlefield
I had a dream last night that I feel impressed to share. In my dream I was walking around the […]
Mom, I am so glad you adopted me
Earlier this year, my son said “Mom, I am so glad you adopted me. We all fit together so perfectly. […]
They Hear God
Early in March, we visited grandma. After spending the day and saying a 10 minute emotional goodbye, we finally got […]
I Love my Dads
So to those in a similar situation, let me encourage you with this…I have two dads that I love with all of my heart. One brought me into the world, the other helped me learn how to live in it.
The Power of a Sandwich Picture
I snapped a photo of my adopted daughter recently and something new hit me. You see the way she is […]
You are NOT Alone
Clothes piled up, toys everywhere, and little people running in and out of the photo. I know life is really […]
Dear Mommas, I celebrate You!
Today I celebrate moms. The ones fostering, adopting, birthing.. the ones who have lost, the ones who chose life, the ones who are still waiting. All of us deserve to be celebrated.
A D O P T I O N
“Mom, I am so glad you adopted me. We all fit together so perfectly. ” My biological son has no […]
Let’s Train Our Tongue to Speak Life
I have been intentional to guard my children from any word spoken against them, and yet in that moment I was the one speaking negative. I know that this is easily a situation where you can get hyper “religious” but for me it was eye opening.
Black History Celebration: Beauty in Our Differences
I, without thinking grabbed a dark brown crayon and started coloring the girl’s skin. Without skipping a beat, the little boy asked me why I would use that ugly brown color because my real skin was so nice and white. I didn’t know if I wanted to cry or hug him more in that moment.
For the Struggling Mom…You are Good Enough.
My heart today is burning for moms who feel defeated. Moms feeling alone. Listen to me… You aren’t supposed to be her, your children aren’t supposed to look exactly like those children…
New York Abortion Law: Where I Find Myself
I will wage war for life, but I cannot justify trampling the wounded on the way to the battle. I must keep my heart at a place that I will stand for truth, but also be willing to run across the street for the broken carrying the weight of her choice. When I forget how to do both, then I fall into dangerous territory myself.
Lessons From My Daughter’s Experience With Bullying
Three little girls were sitting on the bottom bleacher watching the basketball game. As we walked by, one girl stuck out her foot and tried to trip my daughter. She then stuck out her tongue and told my daughter that her hair was ugly…..
God Doesn’t Love Us Equally.
I believe God does not love us equally, He loves us uniquely. I didn’t understand this until my third child. […]
Mommas, what are you stirring up in your home?
As a wife and a mother I spend a lot of the time making sure everyone is taken care of and things are accomplished. I am in the daily details, but if at the end of the day the things I am reflecting are ugly and poisoned I am doing no-one any good by having a clean house and folded laundry.
10 Things You Need to Know About Adoption and Foster Care.
From parental termination to the celebration of adoption you will cry, laugh, hurt, and cry some more. It will crush your heart to see the pain of a mother walking away while simultaneously planting love as you step in. Don’t allow yourself to judge anyone or any situation. You don’t know as much as you think. If you aren’t sure what to do, do the thing that scares you the most. Hope is a vital part of this process.